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12/1/2022

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Today, I'm going to rant a little.  One of my personal pet peeves as a midwife is that once it is obvious that someone is pregnant, it is as if they become public property.  Complete strangers suddenly feel as if they have carte blanche to comment about your pregnancy, your choices, your health and so on.  Sometimes they feel that pregnancy entitles them to come over and touch your belly without asking first!  You may get told birth stories whether you want them or not.  

Why does it seem to so many that it's acceptable to comment on a stranger's pregnancy.  Comments like "You look ready to burst", or "I hope your water doesn't break while you are shopping" are often shared when someone sees a pregnant mother.  It's sad that people just can't keep their comments to themselves.  

A large proportion of society seems to have the tact to restrain comments on someone's appearance while with them in person (social media is another matter) unless it's a pregnant mother.  We don't walk up to strangers and tell them how to take care of themselves unless it's a pregnant mother.  We don't tell siblings that their lives are never going to be the same, that they will have to grow up unless they are with a pregnant mother.  We keep our comments to ourselves unless it's about a pregnant mother.

We need to stop making comments, expecting we can pat bellies, and giving unsolicited advice.  What if we kept our mouths shut and didn't share unless asked?  What if we shared a smile with the pregnant mother and went on with our day knowing we made her life easier by smiling instead of assuming we have something to say she wants to hear?
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    Gail Webster, CPM

    Gail is a Certified Professional Midwife serving Manhattan, Junction City, Fort Riley and other areas in Kansas.  


    When Gail is not occupied with birth work, she enjoys reading, quilting, baking, riding her motorcycle and spending time with family.
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